Over the past month or so myself and several others have been going after terminal illnesses with great passion. It’s something the Lord’s put on our hearts and we see it as a clear command in the Word. And over this time we’ve won some battles and lost some. Several people have passed away and that’s been really tough on our hearts, yet it hasn’t quite had the result the enemy would’ve wanted. Instead of being discouraged, we’ve (or at least I have) found a new resolve…

We’ll come back to that in a second, but let me ask you something:


Why am I asking this question? Because I’ve realized that all too often we think in the parameters of time, not eternity. What matters is how many souls enter the Kingdom, how many people experience the Love of God and that we use our short time here for something meaningful. Worldly roadblocks and challenges mean nothing in the light of eternity, except were we faithful?

When I read over the lives of men like Smith Wigglesworth, John G. Lake, John Wesley, and Lester Sumrall my heart is stirred. They displayed that righteousness, miracles, and the “greater works” aren’t just for the Apostles of the Bible, they’re for the modern Christian.

What did they all have in common? They knew they were nothing without Jesus, they believed God is who He says He is, they communed with the Holy Spirit, and they had ever-increasing faith. I think it’s time we take the Word of God, the testimonies of those before us, and the unction of the Holy Spirit deep into our hearts and actually shake the world with the Gospel of Jesus Christ! Let’s be a people that both those who remain alive on this earth past us and our Savior Jesus will say, “Well done, good and faithful servant. You have been faithful over a little…Enter into the joy of your master.”


My Eulogy

Now that I’ve posed the question to you, it is only fair that I answer the question for you. I want my eulogy or story to read something to the affect of…

Ryan Michael Rhodes was a man after God’s own heart that carried a profound passion, drive and resolve towards the things of the Kingdom of God. He stands out amongst the many ‘Father’s of the Faith’ in that he wouldn’t accept the mundane or ordinary but instead chose to endeavor into the unknown depths of glory and intimacy with His Creator, so much so that nothing could deter Him or His faith in the Lord Jesus Christ. Truly, he will be an example for generations of believers to look to for a glimpse of what it looks like to achieve the things that Jesus paid for on the Cross. He has run his race and has finished well. For in this man the world has been given an example of what it looks like to be a son of God following in the footsteps of Jesus, led by the Holy Spirit. 

My Resolve

With God’s grace, I am going to strive to live a life of eternal consequence, never forgetting the importance of the ever advancing Kingdom. I am going to stand against the Kingdom of Darkness even when no one else will stand with me. I am going to see death bow because Jesus defeated death on the Cross. I will go deeper in God’s presence than I can even perceive at this time. I will keep the faith. I will run my race. I will live a life worthy of the above eulogy.

I now rejoice in my sufferings for you, and fill up in my flesh what is lacking in the afflictions of Christ, for the sake of His body, which is the church, of which I became a minister according to the stewardship from God which was given to me for you, to fulfill the word of God, the mystery which has been hidden from ages and from generations, but now has been revealed to His saints. To them God willed to make known what are the riches of the glory of this mystery among the Gentiles: which is Christ in you, the hope of glory. Him we preach, warning every man and teaching every man in all wisdom, that we may present every man perfect in Christ Jesus. To this end I also labor, striving according to His working which works in me mightily.

Colossians 1:24-29 NKJV

In Closing

I exhort you to prayerfully figure out what you are to be remembered for. What is the eternal perspective of you life? What does it look like for your life to reflect being a son/daughter of the Creator of the universe? Leave a legacy worthy of the salvation you’ve been given.

I, therefore, the prisoner of the Lord, beseech you to walk worthy of the calling with which you were called, with all lowliness and gentleness, with longsuffering, bearing with one another in love, endeavoring to keep the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace. There isone body and one Spirit, just as you were called in one hope of your calling; one Lord, one faith, one baptism; one God and Father of all, who is above all, and through all, and in you all.

Ephesians 4:1-6

Please keep me and my crew at FIRE in your prayers. Be blessed!

To God Be All The Glory!

It’s the glory of God to conceal a matter, the glory of kings to seek it out…

Well, I am here searching,
Practicing my royalty by endeavoring into Your divinity.
It’s a multidimensional, para universal Easter egg hunt.
The end: Unknown. The means: Five plus senses enthralled by Love, yearning for a touch from…
What’s that over there?
I see a little of You in me, Your fingerprint on the tree, Your glory in the flight of the bee…
Or is that just coincidence?
No, no, no.
You see, kings view life from the castle,
We see the bigger picture,
Which ironically is picture in picture to His reality,
Like when you think your TVs big and then you visit the theater down the street…
Mind blown as the vibrant colors tickle your pupils and the surround sound shines on your eardrums.
And that’s just peering out your front door.
Life’s beautiful and You, the Creator, even more so.
The more I press in to You the more my wrinkles disappear.
Pursuits a pleasure when the treasure is lifetime guaranteed,
A life freed from condemnation and guilt.
It’s a promise land of glory You concealed for me to discover…
Well I’m here searching and I found my first egg.

This poem was birthed from another post I wrote called UPDATE: Why Do I Feel Like I’m Going Crazy???

To God Be All The Glory!

Just wanted to share something with you all that I picked up in the Spirit. I will do my best to keep it short, brief, and powerful… Here’s hoping for a miracle! haha

The Shift…

Around the end of August/beginning of September, there was a shift in the spiritual realm. The former season was one of God pouring out great vision and anticipation, but now He has now brought us into a season of deeper intimacy to keep the focus His presence. God is pulling His church into areas of His presence and heart we’ve never been.

I felt the shift when it happened but was unsure exactly what it was that I felt. My heart began to long for the Lord in a new way and I had this overwhelming need for more of Him. At one point I actually declared, “If I don’t get more of you Abba, if I don’t go deeper, if I don’t know more, I am going to die.” I felt like I was going nuts!

It was at this point that I started receiving emails, Facebook messages and phone calls from people around the country expressing the same feeling. Since then other leaders in my life have confirmed it. God is drawing His people into a unified intimacy.

An Exhortation…

The verse for this season is Proverbs 25:2, “It is the glory of God to conceal things, but the glory of kings is to search things out.”

What does that mean? God hides things for His sons and daughters to seek out. It’s a divine scavenger hunt of sorts. God is putting a longing in the hearts of His people to go deeper than ever before. What we’re going after will not be surface level. It is something of substance and sustainability. We will come out the other end so undone by the Love of Christ that we will wonder if we were even Christians before the shift! I see it as a well buried deep beneath the earth’s surface. We will dig and dig, and when we get weary, we’ll dig some more. When we find this well it will be as a geyser blowing up in our faces. It is lasting and will purify us of anxiety and worry.

I exhort and encourage you to chase after the heart of God like never before. Get to know Him by spending time with Him in prayer, fasting*, and by reading the Word (aka the Manifesto of God’s Soul). When it feels like you’re not getting anywhere, ask the Holy Spirit for grace to press on. It will be worth it and I promise you it will be life changing!

This process is essential for what God’s about to take us into. You and I will never be the same.

This picture is awesome! Where deeper intimacy meets promise…

The Tactic of the Enemy…

I don’t like to give the enemy any credit or give him any power, but I do believe it is important to understand his plan so we can avoid falling into his lies. Remember his job description: “The thief does not come except to steal, and to kill, and to destroy.” He can steal, kill and destroy your dreams** by convincing you to walk into them before the time is right. He’s a liar.

In this time there are a few things the enemy is going to try to do.

  1. Make us worship vision, not the God of the vision.
  2. Convince us to skip the process and chase after our dreams so that we will burn out and hurt our relationships with others along the way.
  3. Lose focus of the purpose of this season (INTIMACY with GOD) by bringing DISCORD.

I want to take a second and explain #3. On Wednesday the 19th, another shift happened and this one was not of God. The Holy Spirit gave me the word DISCORD. The enemy is trying to sow discord into the Body. This can look like getting frustrated and not knowing why, surmounting or sudden financial issues, disputes or rebellion within in the Body, family troubles, etc. Why? The enemy wants us to take our focus off of God’s goodness and presence and turn our focus to our “problems”. Beware of the “woe is me” attitude. If you focus on your problems, they’ll become your god. If you focus on God, your problems will fade away. It’s all about going deeper with Jesus! Trust Him.

In Summary…

Love God. Walk through the process. Go deeper. Be forever changed by His Love.

“You, God, are my God, earnestly I seek you; I thirst for you, my whole being longs for you, in a dry and parched land where there is no water.” Psalm 63:1

“My soul longs, yes, faints for the courts of the LORD; my heart and flesh sing for joy to the living God.” Psalm 84:2

“For a day in your courts is better than a thousand elsewhere.I would rather be a doorkeeper in the house of my God than dwell in the tents of wickedness.” Psalm 84:10

To God Be All The Glory!

*Fasting must be done in the right way. Remember, fasting changes us not God. New Covenant fasting is different than Old Covenant fasting. Now we fast as a way to say “God, You sustain me. You are the reason I live and breathe.” With every hunger pain we send a prayer to go in worship saying He’s worth it all. Please be smart and don’t fast in a way that is dangerous to your physical health.

**I’m using dreams to describe the heart level desires God has placed there that are specific to each person. Always place your dreams before the Lord and seek Him for what’s from Him and what’s not. Your dreams don’t have to be “churchy” to be from God. You living out your calling on this planet is what’s important. Do it all for the glory of God and enjoy the journey.


For those that know me, I’m not typically someone who lacks vision for the future. I almost always have some sort of idea what God is speaking for each season and my prophetic track record is pretty solid. All around, I am confident in hearing God’s voice and I have a good understanding of my specific calling in life.

In case I’m about to lose some of you, please let me clear up some things. This is not a post about how great I am and the previous statement is to help drive the point home later. If you are not confident in God’s voice or you don’t know what your calling is, that’s okay. My point is not to make myself seem better than I am. If you were offended or put off by the statements above take a second and read this: Declaration of My Own Imminent Failure… But There’s Hope!

The Blessing and Curse of Vision

Now that we’ve cleared that up, let’s proceed! The fact is we are a generation of people that are blessed with exuberant amounts of vision, prophetic words and BIG dreams. Our downfall as a generation is that we are impatient and we’ve never seen process at work. We don’t know what submission looks like, and we’re scared that submission means giving up our dreams. We’ve seen manipulation so we’re slow to trust.

Unfortunately we’re a fatherless generation both in the family unit and in the Church. One of the most common questions I get asked by others my age is, “How do I get a spiritual father or mother?” Because the Church is full of orphans looking for someone to care, those orphans are forced to rely on their dreams for direction.

QUICK EXHORTATION: If you are a mother or father in the Body, please adopt a spiritual son or daughter. We need spiritual leadership that is encouraging, guiding and not controlling.

The thing about dreams is they typically don’t come with a ‘How To Guide’ and the passion in our hearts can be easily influenced by the Enemy. How? Someone once told me that if the Enemy can’t hit the breaks on something he’ll hit the accelerator. If he can get us to hurry past process, character forming and TRUE divine appointments, he can get us to burn out and ultimately stop the glory of God we were going to spread on this planet.

As my pastor and spiritual father Jim Baker puts it, “When we gets words about ministering to the nations or being a general in this generation, we often want to run off and do it or we start looking for our army to lead. You have to learn to follow before you’ll know how to lead. You have to be a son before you can be a father.” We are a generation that carries greatness and we will shake the nations, but we have to allow the process before we run out and try to change the world. Character before calling. Passion without process will leave you burnt out wondering why your dreams never happened. Chase your dreams but honor the process to get there.

Humility Through “Humanization” 

So now I must confess that I’m the most guilty of us all. I tried to rush the process and I almost fell flat on my face. Thankfully God’s grace invaded the situation. Let me lay out the scenario for you.

My passion is for Hollywood, filmmaking and ministry. I’ve received tons of prophetic words about a new season, moving to a new city, Los Angeles and traveling preaching. Every single word hit my heart in a profound way that told me they were from God. I recently left school upon the releasing of the Holy Spirit and that left me wondering, what’s next? So I looked over my prophetic words and it would make complete sense based on the prophetic words for me to prepare to move to LA, and honestly God probably would’ve blessed it. Favor has never been an issue and I’m confident it never will be, but what I would’ve missed out on (and what would’ve been to my demise) was the opportunity to learn sonship.

Brad McKoy, another spiritual father in my life, had a very tough talk with me that helped bring things into perspective. Jesus served as a carpenter in His father’s house for almost 30 years. Throughout that time He must have seen sick people, the poor, people stoned to death, etc. His heart had to of swelled with compassion and a desire to step in to help, but He knew it wasn’t His time yet. That conversation struck my heart hard and I knew what I had to do. God told me a year ago to serve my spiritual parents and my church, yet I had let that word fall behind the was that were more exciting in my mind. We will never be short on cool options and good things to do, but it’s about figuring out what the God things are. Bill Johnson says, “Character is not formed in the absence of options.” Figure out where you are supposed to serve and stick to it until God releases you.

This picture makes me laugh because they made Jesus look like a little girl. C’mon Catholic artists! haha

Since I came to that realization in my head and my heart, I knew exactly what I needed to do. It started with repentance to my spiritual parents and then to the rest of my spiritual family. The night before being ordained at Zion (July 22nd, 2012) I was able to repent and they then gathered to pray over and bless me. It wrecked me. I am truly blown away by the grace and Love shown by those who care about me.

To bring understanding to my earlier statements, even though I’m confident in hearing God’s voice, I was wrong. I misunderstood the direction I was supposed to be going and I made a mistake or three. But that’s okay. I think the most powerful thing that came of this is the humanization of humility. We tend to put people on a pedestal in the Body and we forget they’re human. This both removed the pedestal in other’s minds and gave me the freedom to make mistakes. The day I start claiming to be perfect or to know everything is the day that you should stop listening to anything I have to say. I’m human and I’m always going to be growing.

One of my favorite books in the Bible is Timothy (yes, I’m putting 1 and 2 together). Every time I read it I feel like Paul is writing to me. Paul makes a statement to Timothy that is key regarding growing in the faith:

Cultivate these things. Immerse yourself in them. The people will all see you mature right before their eyes! Keep a firm grasp on both your character and your teaching. Don’t be diverted. Just keep at it. Both you and those who hear you will experience salvation.

1 Timothy 4:15,16

Did you catch that? “The people will all see you mature right before their eyes!” It’s okay, actually it’s necessary, to be growing as a leader. People often ask me why I am so open about my life and that is the reason. I want you to see me grow and I want you to see my mistakes. I also want you to see me learn from them. Why? I hold to the hope that you can learn from observance what I learned and will learn from trial.

So What Now?

I have surrendered myself to the process and have committed to serving Zion and FIRE for a year. I realized the recent prophetic words were for the next season and they are to help me prepare. I want to grow in relationship with my spiritual parents and learn everything I can from them. My goal is to honor them in heart, word, and deed. I canceled all ministry plans for the remainder of the year and I will take any new invitations before God and the wise counsel of my leadership.

Meanwhile, FIRE is going full force against the darkness at OSU by Loving relentlessly. We plan to see a greater family dynamic form amongst the group, more salvations, outrageous miracles, unprecedented favor and ultimately the Kingdom of God at Ohio State. Zion is now helping spiritually cover us and they have opened their resources and trainings up to us.

In Closing…

Pursue your dreams but honor the process you are called to. Don’t try to rush anything. God’s plan is greater than ours. A general doesn’t receive that place of authority right out of boot camp. Let God put you on the platform. True authority is given by God and man recognizes it. You don’t have to make the prophetic words over your life happen. Part of weighing prophetic words is praying about the timing of the words. Ask God if that’s a word for now or later. I urge you to learn from my mistakes and successes.

To everyone that has supported me (prayerfully, financially, or otherwise), thank you! Your Love and grace continues to remind me of why I do what I do. I see Jesus in you all and experience deeper levels of His Love in the way you Love me. A special thanks to Brad McKoy and the Bakers for their continued support, guidance and Love.

My hope is that this post has blessed you. If it has please pass it on to others. Also, you might want to check out this video I recorded recently: The Calm Before The Storm… 

I leave you with the words of Paul to young Timothy… Be blessed!

Let no one despise your youth, but be an example to the believers in word, in conduct, in love, in spirit, in faith, in purity. Till I come, give attention to reading, to exhortation, to doctrine. Do not neglect the gift that is in you, which was given to you by prophecy with the laying on of the hands of the eldership. Meditate on these things; give yourself entirely to them, that your progress may be evident to all. Take heed to yourself and to the doctrine. Continue in them, for in doing this you will save both yourself and those who hear you.

1 Timothy 4:12-16 NKJV

To God Be All The Glory!

“Mawage. Mawage is wot bwings us togeder tooday.” -The Impressive Clergyman from The Princess Bride (1987)

Recently I received an email from my mom that said,

Praying about your wife and keep asking the question in my spirit, “Why do you want to get married?” Sex?  Companionship?  Why?

My mom being someone who is a prophetic voice in my life, I definitely want to take this question seriously. It’s no secret that I want to be married and have a family, but why? What is my motivation? My friend Brian Williams once said

The two main questions young Christians always ask are ‘Who’s my wife/husband?’ and ‘What’s my calling or ministry?’

That’s so true of my generation! Process with me for second as I explore the reasons most Christians my age want to be married…


It’s no secret men are very sexually driven (yes, even Jesus-Loving men). I don’t know how many Christian men I’ve met that just want to get married and have sex so they’re no longer tempted with things like porn/masturbation, parties, thirsty girls, etc. It’s probably no surprise that I would say this, but that’s dumbest reason for marriage I’ve ever heard and it’s a complete lie from the Enemy. A marriage built on the rocky bed of lust will crumble!

In Matthew 5:28 Jesus said ,

But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her in his heart.

How many people have you or I had sex with in our hearts? Men, if you’re dealing with a porn addiction or even just constant lust, take the time to address it in your heart. You can’t pull that into your relationship because it’s not fair to the other person, you and especially not fair to Jesus who paid for you to be free.

One thing God had to address with me this past summer was heart ties. In case any of you are wondering, no, I’m not a virgin. Because I’m not I needed to deal with the tie I had made to another person spiritually and physically. God not only took me to that relationship but others also that weren’t pure and/or emotional ties had been established in the past. I CAN’T STRESS HOW IMPORTANT THIS IS!!! Deal with all past hurts, betrayals, commitments, and relationships (casual or serious) before God prior to ever looking at being in a relationship aimed at marriage!

Finally, when you’ve had a sexual relationship and you are trying to keep your purity before the Lord it is easy to subliminally have sex as your motivation for marriage because your body craves that physical intimacy again. Check your motivation to be married with God and make sure that’s not the reason you desire it so much.

Sex will be wonderful in marriage and will be beautiful. Hopefully this doesn’t offend anyone, but think about this for a second… Man and woman come together in marriage and “make Love” they will soon produce a child. The product of making Love is a child, the beautiful essence of the two people that joined together. That child then holds and is raised into the best qualities of each person. How amazing is that?! Starting a family one day will be incredible!

Job 31:1,

“I made a covenant with my eyes not to look with lust at a young woman.”


For those of us that want a spouse and children, family can be a huge motivator for getting marriage. Is there anything wrong with that? No, I don’t think so. As a man that wants to be a father I am looking forward to the chance of getting to experience more of God’s heart. If you think about it, being a father is one of the greatest ways to be like God. Husbands get to Love their wives as Christ Loves the Church (Ephesians 5:22-33) and fathers get to Love and discipline their children as Father God Loves and disciplines us (Proverbs 3:11-12). What an honor!

We have to ask ourselves, what’s the rush? We tend to want to rush the blessings of God not realizing some blesses have to come in a certain order. What if God’s about to send you on a 2 year missions trip working in sex trade rehab in India, but you want kids? How would that work? You can’t raise children in that environment. We have to put His plan before our own. Hold to what it says in Jeremiah 29:11,

For I know the plans I have for you,” says the LORD. “They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope.

Trust Him.


I’ve heard it said that we should stay single until the point we can only better advance the Kingdom married. I would agree, but I’d add that sometimes marriage wouldn’t hinder Kingdom work but merely change the work you’re doing. I think the importance is knowing what season you’re in.

In my case, God’s got me in full-time ministry and full-time school. It would be great to have someone by my side partnering with me to accomplish the task the Lord’s given me. Think about this with me, the woman was taken from the side of man, the rib (Genesis 2:22). The rib protects the heart. I love the symbolism God setup. Man is complete when his woman is standing by his side guarding his heart (not behind him like many controlling men have made it seem). A man is typically more of a visionary and the woman more detail oriented. When the man fails the wife is there to help protect his heart and encourage him to keep going (not say “I told you so!”). So many times in ministry I’ve experienced attack from people, accusing spirits and even my own mind. I’ve failed time and time again. Often I wonder how it would be to have an encouraging wife by my side in those times.

Another thing is it would help to have a wife for her to talk to all the women in my ministry. There’s only so much a young, single male can do to help women.

So if this is a piece I need in ministry, it puts a healthy demand on God that He will supply in the right timing.


Companionship can be a crutch. When we have been hurt we tend to look for comfort and where we find that comfort is wrong if it isn’t Jesus Christ (I’ll explain more in the next section). At the beginning of the last summer I was avoiding dealing with my hurt and instead daydreaming about how marriage could magically fix everything. Obviously God wasn’t going to let that slide so He asked me a question that really shook me back to reality:

How can you take care of someone else’s heart yet you haven’t taken care of your own?

That question hit me hard and made me realize the importance of taking care of my heart. How could I take care of my bride while being broken myself? There’s no way a relationship could be healthy like that.

Many of us (Christian women more so than men) tend to want companionship because we’re lonely. We want to have someone there with us and we’re so impatient in the meantime. And are we wrong??? When God created Adam He recognized it wasn’t good for Adam to be alone (Genesis 2:15-24). Even Paul said it was better to marry if that was a desire you have so you don’t fall into sin (1 Corinthians 7:1-7). What we have to realize is God isn’t just withholding something great for us and laughing, He’s preparing us. He’s letting us fall in Love with Him before we fall in Love with someone else. God wants us to be to be content in Him.

Marriage and Family Can Be A Idol (What?!!)

I know what you’re thinking, how can something God created and loves to bless be an idol? Simply put an idol is anything we place before God.

About a year ago I was riding on a bus back from visiting my best friend David Wade in NYC and I was staring out over the passing scenery of snow covered trees as we trekked across the length of Pennsylvania. At this point God had opened up my dream of traveling and getting to encourage different parts of the Body. I was seeing hearts come alive, bodies healed and the Love of Christ touch the lost, but I was hurting and lonely. As I looked out the window I began to tear up and I prayed,

God, I’m thankful You’ve allowed me to step into my dreams but I’m lonely. Please give me someone to travel with, a companion. I want my wife to be by my side.

God answered me with a question I’ll not soon forget…

What if I called you to never get married for My sake?

That question sent me into a whirlwind of emotions from distress to anger to panic and back to anger. I answered honestly saying,

Then I wouldn’t be able to be obedient.

He answered me simply,

Then marriage is an idol.

Wow… It truly blew my mind. Over the summer when I went through heart healing (Click Here to read my post on heart healing and this summer) God really worked through it with me. He revealed the secrets of my heart so secret I didn’t even realize they were there. See, at this point my relationship with my own family wasn’t that great and I felt like I wasn’t Loved. Therefore, I was wanting someone to Love me and to make a family so I would have that piece of my life. In other words, I was taking everything into my own hands and out of God’s.

Luckily He put a stop to that and I laid all my desires (filmmaking, preaching, family, FIRE) at the foot of the Cross this summer and told Him to only give me back what I was supposed to have. He got me to the point where I could wholeheartedly say I was okay never getting married and that’s when He gave it back. He brought contentment in knowing it’s all in His hands so I no longer have that pressure of making it happen.

Ask yourself if marriage is an idol in your life. If you can’t lay it down before God, chances are it is. As 1 John 5:21 says,

Little children, keep yourselves from idols.

What Is My Motivation?

So when it comes down to it, why do I want to get married? Sex isn’t my motivation. I can wait to have a family. Ministry work can happen without a wife. Right now I’m pretty content where I am at and as far as God’s revealed to me my heart is in a good place.

I want to be married because my hearts desire is to…

Our lives should ever be increasing into Christ-likeness and marriage reveals a side of Loving like Jesus that you can’t learn any other way. It’s not wrong to desire marriage as long as our desires are behind God’s desires.

How Can We Prepare For Marriage?

One place we Christians tend to drop the ball is preparing for what we are praying for. My friend Tim Walk preached a sermon about this once and it stuck with me. It’s one thing to PLAN to do something, it’s a whole other thing to PREPARE for it. Elijah had to prepare the alter before God rained FIRE (1 King 18:20-40). Prepare for your prayer to be answered. God isn’t going to give one of His beautiful daughters to a childish man and He’s not going to give one of His precious sons to a contentious woman.

    • Prepare your heart so you are whole and are able to care for another heart.
    • Deal with anything you know you struggle with before you are married. (Ex: poor relationship with God, lust, being quickly angered or annoyed, gluttony, envy, laziness, idols, etc.)
    • Ask yourself what habits need to die (Ex. not keeping a clean room/house, bad hygiene, low work ethic, overspending or careless spending, bad eating habits, etc.)
    • Ask yourself what habits need to be established (Ex. cleanliness, good hygiene, good work ethic, disciplined spending, eat healthy, etc.)
    • Men, step out and grow as leaders in your church, job, classroom, or anywhere else it is possible. Be a man. Be responsible.
    • Prepare your body for your future spouse (Ex. work out, eat healthy, etc.)
    • Prepare yourself to support another person (Ex. establish good credit, save money, start paying off any debt, work on getting several sources of income, etc.)
    • Men, be ready to treat your future bride like a princess before she’s your queen by saving up money to take her on nice dates and saving up for an engagement ring.
    • Prepare yourself emotionally to be able to tend to another person even when you don’t feel the best.
    • Prepare yourself for the changes that come when you are married and are around another person consistently, sometimes even when you really don’t want to be.
    • Our reactions to different situations are typically pre-thought out. Prepare yourself to show grace even when you are hurt.

I know I am a 21 year old single male but wisdom is being able to observe and learn from the good and bad in every situation. I have observed many marriages and have talked to God about this quite a bit. Hopefully this helps all my single friends out there. If it did please leave me a comment and pass it on via Facebook and Twitter. Be blessed!


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